My youngest son really missed me while I was away for two weeks of training. I did come back refreshed and renewed. I have really used the image of the Madonna in all my interactions with him. My voice has lowered, my gestures have softened toward him. I am using the Pikler Rule: Never, ever pull an object from a child's hand." I am finding that I have a lot to learn from the Pikler Method. Respect of the child is so key...they don't always come when called...or stop doing something when they are told to stop....but if I allow enough time so as not to hurry (who ever saw a Madonna rushing? Hmmm? ) then I can speak softly and remind my son a few times that it is time to dress, etc. This has been working out so well for us these past 4 days since I returned. We have been sharing alot of one-on-one time and I am not working right now...it is true...but I am making a huge conscious effort to look deeply into his eyes when I answer his questions...stop what I am doing to watch him when he asks me to watch, touch him always with gentleness.
When I am tired or overworked I tend to focus on my tasks and not take the time to look up at my son when I am answering him...this is so disrespectful. Or I don't truly enjoy watching his antics when he asks me to ," Mom...watch me swing on the trapeze..." I am making a real effort to consciously hold him, look at him, and listen to him like a Madonna...I just hope and pray with all my heart that I can sustain this when I start babysitting again and school starts up again.
I think a major key is to get enough sleep.
Well, my little boy may have really missed his Mamma for two weeks..but a new-improved Mamma has returned to him...I have gone to "finishing school"...I know it is working because I have been getting so many kisses during the day from him.....lots and lots of love.
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